How To Deal With Suicidal Thoughts

TRIGGER WARNING: This post speaks about suicide, if you are suicidal and have recently self-harmed please call the Samaritans line: 116 123.

Most of the time, we don't talk about suicide. It takes the death of a celebrity, close friend or a relative to remember how important your mental health is. It's sad to think that someone believes the only way out is to take their own life. If we were more educated on why people even consider suicide as an option, maybe it would make a difference and save a life. Maybe we would be more compassionate and considerate of how they're feeling. We would check up on them more frequently and more importantly, we would remind them they are more loved than they think.

Why Do We Feel Suicidal?

Sometimes the pain is so unbearable that you can't see yourself getting any better. When you are faced with challenges, back to back, year after year it gets exhausting. You start to there any point being alive? Should I keep going? Is it even worth it? Will it just get worse? Would it really matter if I was gone?  There have been times where l found myself asking God "why am I here?" in moments of pain. I just couldn't seem to wrap my head around why I was experiencing so many hardships. The truth is, no one really wants to die...we just want our lives to get better and the pain to subside. So how do we cope with such thoughts?

Dealing With Suicidal Thoughts

It's worth asking yourself, why do I feel suicidal? When you start to figure out the reasons for your thoughts, you can identify what else you can do to reduce the pain. Remember, DON'T act on how you feel. Seek professional help or call the suicide helpline if you plan to take your own life.

So how do we cope with such thoughts?

Talk to Someone

Opening up about our thoughts isn't easy, especially when it hurts someone else. Some of us are not comfortable with confiding in friends or family because we may be afraid of what they may say or fear they wouldn't understand. If you have a support system who genuinely care about your mental health reach out to them.

If you're having suicidal thoughts don't deal with them on your own. Speak to a therapist, a close friend or a family member that you can trust. We'll try to convince ourselves that no one cares but I promise you someone does. Let people help in any way they can.

Talk to God

"Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand." Philippians 4:6-7

There have been times in my life where I've been extremely distressed. I know if I didn't believe in God I wouldn't be here today, it's my faith that strengthens me to keep going. I try to remind myself that God's plan for me isn't to continually suffer. We will all see our breakthrough one day. There is something bigger in store, as long as you continue to persevere and trust in him you'll live to see it. Lift yourself up in prayer and read God's word. Never forget how much he loves you.

"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11.

Listen to an encouraging message every day

Consider listening to a podcast about depression and suicidal thoughts. Many people have been brave enough to share their story and encourage others to overcome their own battles too. This can give you a different perspective on what it's like to be on the other side. There are mental health podcasts and YouTube channels that promote positivity. I would suggest searching for affirmation videos or anything that can boost your mood throughout the day.

Spend Some Time Outdoors

Go for a walk and try to distract your thoughts. Get some fresh air, practice mindfulness and be in the present moment. Appreciate how nature looks or how warm the weather is. Finding joy in the little things can help to shift our focus so we can appreciate what's around us.

Do Things You Enjoy

This is a difficult task when you don't have the mental energy to do anything, but allowing suicidal thoughts to circle your head isn't ideal either. Try to force yourself to do something that usually brings you some sense of happiness or peace. Most of our pain comes from being too attached to our minds, so practice mindfulness as much as you can and keep yourself busy.

It's extremely hard to convince yourself you have something to live for when you're at your lowest. You have no hope, only despair and hopelessness. Just remember, life is full of endless possibilities. Your life could change at any moment, don't give up. When you feel suicidal, remember your life can transform and your suffering will end. Affirm this every day, even when you think otherwise.

I want to encourage anyone who can't seem to find a way out of the darkness to keep going. Life's hard but you learn how to manage it. You got through every single dark day you've experienced! How amazing is that? You can overcome your situation without ending your life. Don't pass your pain onto the people you love. You are not alone in your suffering and you have something to live for. Your story could save a life, so don't give up. You mean something. Don't leave before your time because your life is too precious to miss out on, even if you can't see it.

Suicide helplines:

The Samaritans

Tel: 116 123


MindInfoline: 0300 123 3393

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)

Helpline: 0800 58 58 58


HOPELINEUK – 0800 068 4141


Helpline: 0800 11 11


Helpline: 0808 802 5544

The Mix

Helpline: 0808 808 4994

No comments

Post a comment